Is a victim mentality sometimes justified?

Is a victim mentality sometimes justified?

"Victim Mentality" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward
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There is a victim, and there is a victim mentality. A victim is someone who suffers at the hands of others. A person with a victim mentality believes that all of their suffering is the result of the negative actions of others, whether there is clear evidence for this or not. It's hard to tell the difference sometimes. So, if I can share personally. I know I've suffered at the hands of others. I was a victim. However, it's when I turned this around inside my head to, "I deserve this!" "I will never be happy!" "I just can't do anything right!" "It's their fault my life sucks!" "Here we go again! This is my life. Nothing will ever change!" "This is God punishing me!" And so on. Been there. Done that. It's a horrible place. And it can become a habit. In fact, victim mentality is an acquired attitude. I know because I've struggled with it. There are extreme cases... such as women trying to get water from a well and get raped or killed and whose children go missing. It would be hard to not turn this incessant suffering at the hands of others as typical of life in this world. It would be hard, if not impossible, to not think, "This is my life! FML!" I've been to the Philippines and to Haiti and met people who were living in unbelievably extreme conditions of suffering. What struck me most was their resilience. I did not detect a victim mentality. Even though they were definitely victims. It was a lesson to me not to let myself slip into a victim mentality when things got bad. I don't always succeed at this. Especially when my aggressors are obvious and are obviously victimizing me. There have been times in my life, even recently, when I am in a place where all the inspiring memes in the world cannot touch. The cartoon: the sheep has a victim mentality. I'd allow it. We talk about this kind of thing at The Lasting Supper.

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