priorities: individual or organizational
When it comes to religious communities such as church it comes down to a matter of priority. There are two priorities: concern for the individual and concern for the church. When concern for the organization is the priority, people are going to suffer. If an individual won't fit with the program, refuses to go with the flow, bucks authority, or questions the status quo of the organization, then that individual will suffer the consequences for the welfare of the organization. When concern for the individual is priority, the health and welfare of that person is of utmost concern. That person's value, freedom and independence take precedence over the organization. The organization does everything in its power to stay out of the way of the individual's path and will suffer the consequences for the rights of that person. I know this is a simplified perspective. This problem has vexed philosophers for centuries. But when it comes to the church as an organization the wisest path is to prioritize the person. This is the way I did it as a pastor. I saw firsthand the perpetual frustration of the organization and the bewilderment of my peers. But on the other hand I saw the genuine liberation of individuals that created a dynamic and fruitful community. If you are a part of a community where the organization is the priority to the detriment of your path then I suggest getting out. But if you can find a community where you can exercise your freedom and experience mutual respect, then you've found what you're looking for. I published a book of cartoons that addresses issues like this. For just $9, order "Nakedpastor101: Cartoons by David Hayward", from amazon.com, amazon.ca, amazon.de. Great for laughs and serious discussion!