Shame is a Hard Habit to Break
Shame is a powerful emotion.
So, many weaponize it.
The interesting thing is that when I talk about shame, people rush to its defense.
Because it works.
People who use shame would rather you conform than transform.
It’s one thing to think, “I didn’t do that and I should have” or “I did that and I shouldn’t have”.
It’s another to think you are a terrible person who can never measure up to the standards set for you by yourself and others.
My advice to people who feel shame:
Think of yourself as a winner who stumbled, not as a loser who will never amount to anything.