Speak Lovingly to your 10 Year Old Self

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Speak Lovingly to your 10 Year Old Self

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Speak Lovingly to your 10 Year Old Self

Unusual post today. No cartoon. Just 10 year old me.

One day I was looking through some old photos when I came across this one.

Me at 10 years old.

A wave of emotions swept through me.

I felt so much love for him.

I whispered to him lovingly.
I told him everything he was going to experience.
Nothing was excluded. Everything!

I shared with him all the pains, the abuses, the struggles, the confusions, the hardships… all the really bad things he was going to see and experience. Everything!

But I comforted him that he even though they were going to effect and even shape his life, that he would survive them all and be able to look back with gratitude over everything. Everything!

Then I revealed to him all the wonderful things he was going to experience… everything from falling in love with the most amazing and beautiful woman and that we would raise a wonderful family… the achievements, the churches and music and arts he would experience… and the incredibly fascinating pilgrimage of his spiritual life from the silly to the sublime.

Finally I told him who I am. I’m happy. In love. Fulfilling my dreams. Helping people around the world. Making my living through art and teaching and community. That I couldn’t imagine my life getting any better. That everything he was going to experience, the bad and the good, would all somehow fold into a wonderful life.

When I was finished my heart felt bigger.
I loved myself even more.
And therefore I loved others more too.

Try it.
Find an old photo of your young self.
Speak lovingly to you.
You deserve it.


2 comments

  • Adam Julians

    Yes loving self, rather than an narcissistic love of self. Caring for self so as then be able to love and care for others.

    Sometimes the messages we get either from ourselves with the “imposter syndrome” or from the world would have it another way, hey?

  • Adam Julians

    Yes loving self, rather than an narcissistic love of self. Caring for self so as then be able to love and care for others.

    Sometimes the messages we get either from ourselves with the “imposter syndrome” or from the world would have it another way, hey?

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