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Description: A MicroAggressive Christian t-shirt with the words, "God Loves Even You!" I've been talking with friends and doing research about microaggressions.  Microaggressions are insults against a certain group of people that come off as a joke or even a compliment. Often they’re not even thought about… the aggressor sometimes doesn’t even know what they’re doing. They’re automatic comments that are often made in passing. Here are some examples: “You don’t seem gay, though!” “You’re the whitest black person I know!” “Figures your family is rich, being Jews.” “You’re actually pretty cool for a Christian.” “You look like you’re from...

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Description: A bunch of sheep topple over a statue of a sheep with a shepherd's staff riding a wolf. There are brown sheep, black sheep, white sheep, a sheep in a wheelchair, LGBTQ+ sheep, and a Transgender sheep. I'm all for taking down monuments to hate, violence, oppression, colonization, slavery, injustice, and including spiritual abuse. You can get prints of "Statue Toppling Sheep" in my nakedpastorstore. Thanks for your support.

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(Description: A man stands before a pastor at his desk: "I think you're very controlling and from now on I want to be treated with respe..." Next the pastor pushes a button under his desk and the man falls through a hole in the floor.) I've challenged controlling leadership several times and every time I was removed... either fired if it was a job or kicked out if I was a member.  Challenging controlling leadership was basically my goodbye speech.  "Here's a box. You've got 10 minutes to collect your things and leave the building." Controlling pastors don't think they're controlling....

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THE THEOLOGY OF THE CROSS, SUFFERING, AND ABUSE I made a meme that said, “I am better for my sufferings. I am better than my sufferings.” Some responded that we should be careful to not glorify suffering. Agreed! What comes first: the abuse or the theology? Does an abuser gravitate towards a theology that permits and inflicts suffering? Or does a theology inspire abuse in abusers? I suggest it’s a vicious circle where an abuser and a theology develop a symbiotic relationship that feeds off each other and their victims. Here is a pastor who considers himself God’s hand to...

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(Description: People are bowing at the feet of a proud pastor and one says, "Dear Pastor, we know you would never hurt us!") ADORING PASTORS Have you seen a pastor absolutely adored? I’ve not only seen them but been under their ministries. I consider it potential for the subtlest of spiritual abuse. Here’s why: The endgame of abuse is control. They do whatever it takes to force you to comply to their wishes and expectations. Since the church should frown upon sexual, physical, and verbal abuse, it resorts to less obvious methods more difficult to discern or challenge. I’ve seen...

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