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An LGBTQ+ person, a woman, a black man, and a Muslim woman are seated in waiting room of an office that says, "Equality for All! Please Wait!" It's eye-opening to realize that it's not just inefficiency, bureaucracy, indifference, laziness, or lack of vision that prevents equality from becoming a reality, but actually malice that blocks it.

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A man with parts of his body missing shaped like puzzle pieces stands before a pastor who has those missing pieces in his hand. For many of us, it's not that we even want our life back... because we've never really known anything else. We want our life! And for so many people that means feeling like we're starting from scratch and having to learn how to live our own lives for the first time. You relate?

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A pastor says to his congregation: "Shame was always used to make me fall inline. It worked because it's the easiest and most immediate way to control people. But it damaged me like it will damage you. If you ever catch me shaming you, please tell me! Shame is a hard habit to break." Wouldn't that be nice to witness? SHAME IS A HARD HABIT TO BREAK: Shame is a powerful emotion. So, many weaponize it. The interesting thing is that when I talk about shame, people rush to its defense. Why? Because it works. People who use shame would...

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A person is deciding whether or not to jump off of a high place into the arms of the Church which is promising to catch him. There are many bodies strewn around the feet of the church. WOULD YOU JUMP? I wouldn’t. Oh. Wait. I did! So. Many. Times. I once heard a comedian talking about why less people are getting married. He compared it to crossing a busy street. What if you saw that half the people who tried were run over by a car? Would you try it if you knew there was a 50/50 chance of survival?...

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Description: A young hip pastor says to his congregation, "At this church we encourage you to find and walk your own spiritual path, as long as we choose it for you." One of the things that really concerns me about many churches is that they give off this air of progressiveness... ... while the same old problems of control, manipulation, abuse, micro-managing people's lives, and the blatant prohibiting of personal freedom is just as rampant as any other church. But it's all cloaked in an aura of coolness. The most naïve among us fall for it but quickly learn it's not...

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