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Does deconstruction have to be sad? In the popular poem "Footprints in the Sand” Jesus says, "The times when you have seen only one set of footprints is when I carried you."  I think he said, “This is where I dragged your ass!” Carl Jung said, "Walk your path or be dragged."  Recently someone said he prefers my funny cartoons and that I shouldn’t focus so much on negative things about the church.  Maybe this cartoon shows I haven't lost my sense of humor.  When I do cartoon and write about, say, spiritual abuse, I'm helping people embrace their experiences, trust their guts, find...

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DID THE CHURCH BAIT AND SWITCH YOU WITH LOVE? One of the things that disturb me is when someone accuses people of wanting to go to church when the church is notorious for abusing them. Women. LGBTQ+. BIPOC. Etcetera. I always respond that people have the right to want to be a part of a church congregation and community. If a kid was having a rough time at home, would we say, “Why do you want to stay there? Just leave!” Of course not. Because we understand the kid wants family. The church rightly claims that it offers unconditional love....

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SAYING YOU’RE ACCESSIBLE AND BEING ACCESSIBLE ARE 2 DIFFERENT THINGS A door has a sign on it, “We Welcome Short People”. Short people are trying desperately to reach the doorknob but can’t while people inside look fearfully at the short people trying to get in. It’s one thing to say you’re accessible. It’s another thing to actually be accessible.People with disabilities know this. By experience. It’s like churches that say they’re affirming. They say they’re affirming but they’re really not. LGBTQ+ people know this. By experience. Every once in a while I hear from someone who’s found a church that accepts...

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WHEN ABUSERS ARE GREAT TEACHERS This cartoon portrays what happens too often in the Church in general and Christianity as a whole. Sheep scattered, slaughtered. One says to another, “You still got to admit he was a great teacher though.” This happens in businesses, universities, politics, families, and so many places. But we’re talking about the church because it boasts being so good to and for people. Too many highly respected spiritual leaders leave victims in their wake. I’ve experienced this and I know so many others who have as well. I have stories and I hear stories every single...

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LGBTQ and MEETING ALL THE REQUIREMENTS A church full of white sheep. One of them speaks to an LGBTQ rainbow sheep, “I know… I just don’t get it. You meet ALL the requirements and you STILL never get chosen for any leadership roles.” From decades of working within a certain system, the church, I discovered a painful truth: No matter how many well-intentioned people serve a system, somehow they together with it make life difficult for those they disagree with or have an issue with or just don’t like. Systemic evil doesn’t arise from any one person but from the...

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