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CHURCH TO GO A car with a family in it pulls up to the Church-To-Go drive-through. The husband makes his order: "Yes, I would like a sermon on how wives should submit to their husbands and kids should submit to their parents, all sandwiched between upbeat worship music please. Oh and no offering with that today. Thanks!" If only! LOL

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10 Reasons Why It’s Hard to Leave the Church Addictions are hard to break, including church. Some of us already know this. Now, the rest of us will. Fear: Fear gripped me when I left. Did I leave God and God’s people? Does Satan own me? Am I going to Hell? We learn this isn’t true. Friends: I lost not all but most friends. We must learn how to make new ones while grieving the loss of old ones. Complicated! Inspiration: It’s inspiring to gather, learn, and sing together. I got refueled for the next week. Learning how to do that by yourself is...

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Having a little fun. I hope you are are being socially responsible, safe, and healthy! Did you know I have courses available at davidhaywardcourses.com on discount during this pandemic? Go there to check them out. Plus, my Sophia course is FREE right now. Love to all of you!

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“Stages of Dependence” Here are the stages of my relationship with religion. I compare it to my relationship with my parents. 1. Dependence: As children we’re dependent on our parents. We need them. They provide everything. They shape our worldview. The same with religion. We’re dependent on it. It nurtures us. It shapes our worldview. 2. Codependence: This comes at adolescence. We test our boundaries and our parents’ control. We’re stuck between needing our parents and not wanting to. They assume control, but our rebellion creates tension. Same with religion. It thinks it controls us, but we test it. 3. Independence: This came...

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“Rest or Rules” I really have come to the conclusion that the Church cannot truly heal people. It would lose its market. The trick in keeping an organization going is to keep people dependent upon it. And the easiest way to keep people dependent is by managing them with rules. Because organizations know that rules offer a security that feels like peace and looks like rest. But those who have tasted true freedom and true rest know that is a lie. How about you?  

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