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This is true for so many people. Including me. Have you been traumatized by your church experience? Someone wanted this as a sticker so I made it available. I wonder where they're going to stick it. My shop has tons of interesting stuff like this. Check it out.

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Those who assume authority over us and those who hold our community memberships can be tricky with their language. Yes, you’re allowed to ask questions. As long as they are the prescribed ones.Yes, you’re allowed to search. As long as you find what we planted.Yes, you’re allowed to find yourself. As long as you become a person we can accept. The danger with questions, searching, and finding ourselves…is that we cannot predict how things will turn out. We cannot anticipate the answer.We cannot determine what we find.We cannot stipulate what we become. I’ve counseled a ton of people who want...

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The father of one of my first girlfriends wanted to meet me in order to pass a test.  He asked me to look at the wallpaper on their dining room wall and tell me what I saw. I saw nothing but wallpaper.  I failed the test.  He said that there were faces of demons in design of the wallpaper, and the fact that I couldn’t see them was proof that I was demon-possessed. He pronounced that I had a “pharisaical spirit” and couldn’t date his daughter. I often talk with people who are terrified because someone they love doesn’t believe...

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I remember so often being corrected for thinking. No, not just any thinking. A certain kind of thinking was encouraged: the kind that didn’t ask questions but simply accepted what was transmitted… like the transfer of data. But then there were times when my thoughts collided with my faith. “Just believe!” I was told. “Lean not on your own understanding!” I was corrected. “Blessed are those who have not seen and yet believe!” I was preached. Believing alone was not enough. Neither was thinking. There is a place beyond where these two polarized categories do not touch. And it is...

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You need an umbrella of protection!You must be under the spiritual authority of God’s anointed!You need to be accountable to a shepherd! That’s what I was taught.  But I had a spiritual crisis. I needed to talk with someone. There was nobody I could trust. I eventually found a nun in a monastery who agreed to be my spiritual director.  What this taught me was I can take care of myself. I didn’t need to obey my superiors or believe their opinions or follow their instructions on what was best for me.  Churches will teach the “umbrella of protection” and...

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