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WHAT’S YOUR LABEL?Several cans are on the beach. One’s labeled “Atheist”, another “Agnostic”, another “Other”, and another “Believer”. They look at another can without a label getting a tan with a big smile on its face. The “Believer” asks, “But what is he?”Labels are useful for others to know what your contents are.They’re also convenient for you to describe what your contents are.But they’re just words.You are always changing, shifting, morphing.
One label is not your full story.A key component to deconstructing our beliefs is losing your anxiety over labeling yourself. But this doesn’t mean others won’t lose their anxiety over...

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THE STAGES OF DECONSTRUCTION  Deconstruction is changing your beliefs. It can be traumatic. Like death. It may be accompanied by grief.  I’ve adopted Kübler-Ross’s stages of grief and applied them to deconstruction: DENIAL: We can’t believe this is happening. We’ve been faithful believers and now it’s crumbling. Like cancer, we can’t believe it’s real. We may deny our beliefs are changing, but they are.  ANGER: We get angry with the church or with God for not helping us. Or with ourselves because we aren’t good believers anymore. We thought we were better than this. Backsliding wasn’t our plan. How could...

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Two frames. In the first one, “What you see when you deconstruct”, a woman is deconstructing her beliefs and has a lot of questions while she sees her family looking confused and upset. In the second frame, “What they see”, is the woman being carried off by the devil while her family reaches out in horror to try to rescue her. LOVING YOUR FAMILY THAT DOESN’T UNDERSTAND YOU We're nearing Valentine's Day. Today we're talking about loving your family while you're deconstructing. Deconstructing in front of your family can feel like this. To you, you’re just asking questions, doubting, and...

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YOUR BIBLE VERSUS YOUR LOVE This is one of my most popular cartoons on the topic of scripture. Jesus says to a group of people holding their bibles, “The difference between me and you is you use scripture to determine what loves means and I use love to determine what scripture means.” This upsets some because to them Jesus IS the Bible, conflated and equated. And the Bible is love, conflated and equated. They commit the unavoidable hermeneutical method of reading into the text their understanding of what it means. We all do it. In fact, it can’t be helped!...

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Four men over coffee. The first says, “Ya she was the perfect Christian woman serving in so many ways and then she started in her words ‘deconstructing her beliefs’ then she left her husband and then the church and now she’s not the same person!” The next one says, “Some kind of breakdown.” The next, “Mental health issues.” Then, “Satan wants our women.” SATAN WANTS OUR WOMEN We’re talking about women and their fierce self-love in the face of opposition. I started talking about deconstruction over 10 years ago. I noticed something: the most profound stories were from women. It’s...

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