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10 Reasons Why It’s Hard to Leave the Church Addictions are hard to break, including church. Some of us already know this. Now, the rest of us will. Fear: Fear gripped me when I left. Did I leave God and God’s people? Does Satan own me? Am I going to Hell? We learn this isn’t true. Friends: I lost not all but most friends. We must learn how to make new ones while grieving the loss of old ones. Complicated! Inspiration: It’s inspiring to gather, learn, and sing together. I got refueled for the next week. Learning how to do that by yourself is...

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“Do You Have Deep Dark Thoughts?” It is often during a time of crisis when the deep, dark questions roll in one after the other. Have you had nights like the woman in this cartoon?Nights when you couldn’t get to sleep?You can’t get to sleep because you wrestling with existential thoughts? Thoughts that are answerless.Mysterious.Deep.Unfathomable. And also disturbing.Overturning.Upsetting.Life-changing. Questions that provoke you at the deepest level. But you know they must be followed because you sense there’s something very important at the end of it… Life!Happiness!Peace of mind! I know it’s true.

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“Are You Lost? Or Just Being Told You Are?” "Not all who wonder are lost." Ya I know. Gandalf said, "Not all who wander are lost." I like this version that I came up with too. I claim questions provoke more wisdom than answers. Questions cause the mind to grow. Answers freeze the mind. Nothing more to do! I was taught in church that questions were bad. It was a sign of doubting, backsliding, and finally being lost. During times of crisis like the one we're in right now... when people are getting sick, when people are dying, when those...

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“Stages of Dependence” Here are the stages of my relationship with religion. I compare it to my relationship with my parents. 1. Dependence: As children we’re dependent on our parents. We need them. They provide everything. They shape our worldview. The same with religion. We’re dependent on it. It nurtures us. It shapes our worldview. 2. Codependence: This comes at adolescence. We test our boundaries and our parents’ control. We’re stuck between needing our parents and not wanting to. They assume control, but our rebellion creates tension. Same with religion. It thinks it controls us, but we test it. 3. Independence: This came...

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"The Oh-Oh of Cancelling Church" I totally relate to Pastor Don here. Any other pastors out there? I know a lot of people who no longer go to church and they like it that way. When I left the church in 2010, for the first few Sundays I felt incredibly free. Then I felt delinquent.  It took me a while to get used to it. Then did I EVER get used to it. Sunday morning is my favorite time of the week now. Didn't used to be. DISCLAIMER: There are good churches. There's a church Lisa and I love to visit...

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