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STAYING IN LOVE WHEN YOU DON’T BELIEVE THE SAME This takes seconds to see but can take years in real life. This is Lisa’s and my story. When deconstruction hit our marriage (changing beliefs, losing faith as we knew it, and quitting church), it was devastating. We didn’t know how to be together. We didn’t even know how to talk. The glue we assumed held us together (a mixture of being on the same page of belief, being in ministry together, and being a part of a community of believers) disintegrated. We had to figure out, if we wanted our...

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DECONSTRUCTION IS NOT BETRAYAL I read about a person who said their spouse betrayed them because they questioned their beliefs. They made vows and their partner broke them. They felt they should have decided together if this was the right thing to do or not. But you can’t plan deconstruction (questioning your beliefs, losing your faith, and leaving the church). It’s something that happens to you. You don’t wake up one morning and make a calculated decision: I’ll question everything I’ve ever believed. I’ll embark on the most traumatic spiritual crisis of my life. I’ll stop going to church with...

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BUY A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON IN MY STORE! Lisa and I met in the church, got married in the church, raised our family in the church, then later on left the church. We came to realize that it wasn't the church and our beliefs that should hold us together, but our love for one another. We'd come to a place where the church was getting in the way of our growth... personally and relationally. It was time to become spiritually independent. That was a hard transition to make. But we made it, and you can too!  

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Once you realize this, you also realize you're already free. You can get a print of this cartoon HERE.

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These are divisive times. Maybe they could agree that hot drinks are cozy and not get caught up in the particulars. (If you want this cartoon let me know!)

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