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I created some cards for you during this time of isolation and separation from our loved ones. "How about a virtual playdate?" "Wanna pour some wine and hop online?" "I can't wait until we can do this again." "Far apart but with you in heart." "I'm with you in spirit but I wish I was with you in body too!" You can find them in my shop under "cards".  Much love my friends. Stay safe!

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Please take care of yourself and others. Social... or better... PHYSICAL distancing... works. Let's defeat this together. (There are a lot of images and products to enjoy during this time. Read through my blog. Check out thousands of my cartoons. Share with your family and friends. If you're bored, confused, scared, or spiritually curious, I offer lots to think and talk about. Go to my nakedpastor store because that's where everything is, including my blog that's FREE!)

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“Marriage, Deconstruction, Contempt” The most precious thing I nearly lost during my deconstruction, changing my theology, leaving the ministry and the church, was my marriage to Lisa. We better now than ever. But if we weren’t prepared, we might not have survived the crisis. (Not to say that all marriages should stay together. Sometimes divorce is the best solution. Just because you are married it doesn’t you should always be or that if you get divorced you failed.) John Gottmanm, in, "The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work", says there’s one principal that will break a marriage. He can determine...

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STAYING IN LOVE WHEN YOU DON’T BELIEVE THE SAME This takes seconds to see but can take years in real life. This is Lisa’s and my story. When deconstruction hit our marriage (changing beliefs, losing faith as we knew it, and quitting church), it was devastating. We didn’t know how to be together. We didn’t even know how to talk. The glue we assumed held us together (a mixture of being on the same page of belief, being in ministry together, and being a part of a community of believers) disintegrated. We had to figure out, if we wanted our...

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DECONSTRUCTION IS NOT BETRAYAL I read about a person who said their spouse betrayed them because they questioned their beliefs. They made vows and their partner broke them. They felt they should have decided together if this was the right thing to do or not. But you can’t plan deconstruction (questioning your beliefs, losing your faith, and leaving the church). It’s something that happens to you. You don’t wake up one morning and make a calculated decision: I’ll question everything I’ve ever believed. I’ll embark on the most traumatic spiritual crisis of my life. I’ll stop going to church with...

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